It’s almost Valentine’s Day, when many are either celebrating their love for someone or bemoaning the fact that they don’t have a romantic partner. But what if you could love the most Important one in your life? Who’s that you ask? You.
When you have a strong sense of self-love, you understand your own value and treat yourself in a respectful, compassionate way. Once you truly love yourself (not in a narcissistic way), you have lots more love to give to others. It has a positive effect on your physical well-being, mental fitness, and relationships.
To enhance self-love, here are a few things you can start doing now:
- Welcome compliments. Reply to them with: “What a nice thing to say.” “How kind of you.” “Thank you. It’s true.” That way, you both get to feel good. Nothing is more insulting to someone who just complimented your dress to hear you say, “Oh, this old thing?” It insinuates their judgement is poor.
- Nurture positive self-talk and affirmations. I still sometimes hear myself saying, “Well, that was stupid, Robin,” or some other critical, unkind statement. These days, I try to catch it early, jump on it and follow that with, “Hey, nobody’s perfect” or “Hey, don’t talk like that. It was a simple mistake.”
- Practice gratitude for your body. Your body is totally awesome for the million things it does for you on a daily basis. If you are critical of your body, then start a gratitude journal and begin to fill it with all the things you can do. Can you walk? Millions can’t. Does your brain work in reasonable fashion? Woohoo! Does your body heal when it is cut? Glory hallelujah!
- Embrace your uniqueness. Identify your quirks, idiosyncrasies, strengths, and other qualities. You can’t be like “everybody” else, as you are one of a kind. If you are passionate about a cause, get involved. If you are called to garden, go get a shovel. You get the idea. Make a list of the qualities that set you apart and honor them.
These are a start. And if you’re sitting home on Valentine’s Day, and don’t want to be, practice some self-care. Find a friend and go out to eat or see a movie. Or even (gasp!) take yourself out to dinner. I enjoy spotting those with the confidence to eat out by themselves. It took me years to be able to do so.
Lovely little things…
Simple Steps for Energy Clearing in Your Home
This month I will begin with simple space clearing ideas for your home and continue for the next few months:
- Rose geranium oil – is used for various medicinal and home health remedies. It has been proven scientifically that rose geranium oil has antioxidant and anti-aging properties, anti-inflammatory properties. It has antimicrobial, antifungal, and antiviral properties, and analgesic and anti-anxiety properties. For many, it can ease menstrual cramps and stimulate sex drive plus ease depression. What’s not to love?
Best way to use this sensual oil for house or office clearing is to put it in a diffuser or add to a mister bottle of clean water and spritz the rooms that need cleaning. While you are at it, you can also dab a dot on your wrist for pleasure.
Caution: regular use of diffused essential oils can be hazardous to your cat’s, dog’s, and child’s health. Do not diffuse it over long periods.
- is used medicinally, in perfumes, and in cooking in other countries. In Hoodoo, it is the primary ingredient to protect against evil, spiritually clean a house, and to bring good luck in love affairs. It gives a fresh, clean scent to purify your home. I grow it by my backdoor and clip for tea. You can burn the dried leaves or diffuse the essential oil.
- Fresh flowers – Anytime I energetically clear a person’s home, I instruct them to buy flowers and put them around in various rooms after I have finished. In my experience, flowers bring in a wonderful feeling of healing and love to the area. Roses are especially powerful, but I’ve used all kinds of flowers for the purpose.